Blog: insights from Dr. Keren Sofer

Couples Therapy

Couples therapy is a step towards improving your relationship and your life.

A healthy relationship, in which each partner feels loved, understood and supported, is intimately tied to one’s overall life satisfaction. The converse is true as well: an unhappy relationship can impact all areas of one’s life. It adds stress, anger, sadness and distractions. Many couples can recall a happier time and are sometimes confused as to how they have landed in disconnection and pain.

 Some of the reasons couples seek treatment with me include:

  • loss of intimacy (sexual and emotional)
  • communication problems
  • infidelity
  • financial disagreements
  • illness
  • decision making styles
  • parenting approaches
  • traumatic betrayals
  • relationship strains due to infertility or family building

I utilize  Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for Couples, a powerful, empirically-supported modality.  EFT incorporates what we know about how people connect in significant relationships with interventions that are experiential and humanistic.  As humans, we learn and change most effectively through experiences that occur in a safe and caring context. The EFT model is based upon that premise and so therapy is an active exchange, and focused on increasing awareness of the process unfolding with you and your partner.

My approach also considers the impact of one’s family of origin and past patterns in the unfolding of current relationship difficulties. New self-awareness and empathy for one’s partner is leveraged to (re)create healthy interaction cycles. By opening up new ways of understanding oneself and one’s partner, the couple can forge a new, previously unknown, way forward.