Finding One’s Way When Lost in a Parenting Power Struggle
When working with parents who are feeling frustrated, bewildered, and sometimes ashamed in relation to their parenting struggles, I will ask them what they wished for in their child before they were born. We talk about the origins of those dreams and longings. This question often opens up a whole landscape of pain points and areas of pride from their own childhood. This can include ways the parents felt let down or invisible to their own caregivers. It often also reflects a striving to undo and redo, so they can repair their own unresolved wounds from the past. In my